What She Tells Her Friends

It’s not a big secret that women talk. The most minutiae of detail about you will not escape her notice and will freely escape her scarlet lips when she’s with the girls. The question is: What will she divulge and what will she keep to herself? Here is a blow-by-blow list of what she talks about and the reasons behind her confessions.

Does size matter?

Women are inquisitive by nature and the mildest subject of their curiosity can be violated seven ways to Sunday. There is no doubt that when girl talk turns bawdy, many men fall under immense scrutiny. Not-so-innocent discussions may arise regarding your endowment because of dissatisfaction, comfort or discomfort and even to gloat -- for the women with “larger” men.

Does she tell her friends? No.

Generally, women will not disclose or even know the exact dimensions of their mate -- unless he has asked her to help him measure his member. For women, describing size is similar to giving directions: Women often give directions by using landmarks and commonly shared points of interest, such as the cool accessories shop downtown. When guys give directions they employ street names, times and miles.

Men think in spatial terms, which often leads them to use a ruler on their member. Women, on the other hand, are empathetic and describe their “feelings” about their men. Their thoughts on your penis likely involve whether or not it’s a good fit, if you need to go deeper or if they are entirely fulfilled. Interestingly, if the relationship is going well, the size or lack thereof is downplayed. Women in love will not jeopardize their relationship on something as trivial as size. Typically, women don’t want to disparage their men and risk the happiness of the relationship.

How’s your technique?

OK, here’s where things can get embarrassing for men. Technique may be discussed between girlfriends, but if they are kind enough, they may not directly reference their men; however, this aspect will be thoroughly threshed out. Women will talk about what they are unsatisfied with in unbelievable detail, but they’ll also sing praises when they're deserved.

Does she tell her friends? Yes.

Disclosing intimate details, laughing, commiserating, and advising, are all requisites in female relationships. Women get ideas and sex tips from one another. Unlike men, women talk about their problems: If there’s something they don’t like, chances are one of their friends has heard about it and has given some pointers to help point the issue in the right direction.

On a positive note, if you’re too good for words, she has definitely created her own vocabulary to describe just how amazing you are.

What’s the frequency?

Everyone has insecurities. We all wonder about sexual frequency and ask: What is average? Are we above average? What are the averages of our neighbors, coworkers and friends? How often you have sex is a common question. It fulfills personal expectations of normalcy and personal desires to be more frequent than average. She may talk about this aspect of your relationship if she feels that you are engaging in too much or too little sex.

Does she tell her friends? Yes.

Women may become insecure about their relationship and use the long-standing barometer of sexual frequency to measure the status of a relationship. Having sex too often can be somewhat boring, which may result in speculation regarding the levels of comfort and interest in the relationship. If sex sharply decreases, women will worry that they have become unattractive, that they have been replaced or that they are being cheated on. Also, women may feel overwhelmed if sex increases beyond what is desired. In either case, they will look to their friends for support and to discuss insecurities.

Is there a lack of communication?

If you are neither communicating with her nor responding to her requests or wishes, then be aware that her friends may hear this. A nonresponsive partner can be a source of frustration and women will turn to their friends when they need an outlet.

Does she tell her friends? Yes.

A lack of communication in the bedroom is a sore spot. If women feel unheard in bed, they may resent hearing their partner elsewhere. Friends are often consulted to learn how to get a man to listen or how to communicate in such a way that does not antagonize or judge. Women may turn to their friends simply because they need someone to hear them.

Friends are a perfect conduit for venting and advice, but be warned that if you aren’t hearing her wants and needs in bed, someone else will.

Talk dirty to me

Perception dictates that women are genteel and do not descend into vulgarity. Many women find it uncomfortable participating in this kind of naughty conversation because they simply don’t know what to say and often end up feeling inadequate and ridiculous.

Does she tell her friends? No.

It’s the rule of generalities -- women may discuss the fact that they engaged in some steamy talk; however, particulars and actual words won’t be repeated unless something laughable was said. For the most part, women will not go around telling their friends how their man waxed poetic about her firm breasts. Specifics are largely underutilized here.
What’s your fetish?
Again, it is the return of establishing normalcy or deviancy. If women breach this topic with their friends, they may be feeling a little intimidated by the fetish, feel inadequate to the wants and needs or be seeking a discreet out from something that they’re not prepared to enjoy.

Does she tell her friends? No.

The embarrassment may be too great and the subject too controversial for some women to freely talk about. Women may not want to be perceived differently from their friends -- especially if they like what is done in the bedroom or wherever the fetish leads them.

How’s your end game?

What men do after having sex resounds in the minds of women. Women often ask: Does he fall asleep? Does he cuddle for five minutes then zip up? Does he stay the night?

Does she tell her friends? Yes.

After a romantic interlude, women may find it necessary to tell their friends exactly what happened. Women want opinions that will confirm their suspicions, allay worries or coincide with happy wishes.

The emotional blow is tangible when men leave right after sex. Women will replay conversations in their heads to find that one word that indicates another meeting and see if his actions follow suit. All these variables are examined and discussed with their friends; be aware of the verbal and nonverbal cues you send on your exit. Unless the woman is also using the man, she will not appreciate a quick getaway.

Chatterbox

Friends are invaluable to women. They play the roles of therapist, sister, sounding board, and mother. What women tell or don’t tell their friends is reliant upon mood and how into you they are. Among friends, happiness is shared jubilantly and dissatisfaction is dissected.

How satisfied she is with you and the relationship correlates into positive conversations with her girls. Treat her well and you won’t have to worry about any possible embarrassment later.